Ooooook, so day 2 didn’t go as smoothly as I would have liked. Ummm.. I kinda went for my own worst enemies #1 and #3. I know, I know, there are rules that I am suppose to be following, but I really didn’t think I was going to go for #3, but #1 took over! And this is not an excuse, but I was not drinking to forget about my ex, even though his name was brought up because I was telling a friend about the most recent events. I did not call him or text him either! Uhhh, does this mean I have to start over?! I hope not. Let’s just move on to day #3.
Your Last Day of Crying and the Rules About Him
When you’re busy fighting alligators, it’s easy to forget you have friends on the shore.
No Contact. Well, I’m good with that. His number is erased from my phone (though I know it by heart, damn I wish I could erase some things from memory). I do not text him and I don’t believe he will be calling me anytime soon. He did leave me an email when we were talking about things and I have thought about writting back so I can have the last word, but I am leaving it alone. And I don’t think you know how truly hard that is for me, but I’m doing it.
Go Right Ahead, Think About Him. So, I’m aloud to think about all the good times we had, etc, but I must counteract it with a not so good memory or trait of his. That I can do, not a problem. Though my main problem is a few months down the road, only remembering the good. The bad tends to fade with me, but talking to him again quickly reminded me of all that I had forgotten! This chapter is actually pretty good because here is some things I have noticed that I do and have seen alot of other girls do. I think of my ex with a new girl and get upset. They must be having this great and amazing time and she is getting the benefits from everything that I had to put up with and worked at. But wait! What in the hell makes me think that he changed over night?! He is still the same lying, cheating, manipulative, bad mouthing, video game playing, bad tempered, spoiled, asshole that he was when we were together. So really, I should not envy a new girl in any way, shape or form. After reading this and bringing it more into the light, I actually feel sorry for the next victims, but hey, not my problem.
No Revenge! So this falls into my whole not having the last word thing. I think I will be ok on this one, but I have been known to slip. I may think revenge is sweet, but in all honesty it just makes you look like an idiot. I love the quote in this part. “Every time you sek revenge, be sure to dig two graves-one for your enemy and one for yourself.” And what I will always remember, is to promise myself that I’ve compromised my dignity on his behalf for the very last time.
No Driving Past His House or Work. He doesn’t work, so check and his house is too far…check. The “ouch” part of this section (and in “ouch” I mean ouch that is so true) was “He and his life are no longer any of your business. ” Man, let me tell you, this book really makes you laugh though too. I highly recommend this book to anyone!!!
Avoid His Usual Hangouts. I tend to do what this section broke down. If I know that I’m looking especially good a certain day I will hope to “accidently” run into my ex. This is a big NO, it’s still damaging. It will not help me feel better in the long run. Also, I often hear myself say “why should I go out of MY way.” As the author says this may be true, but Dr. Phil puts it best, “Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?” Damn you Dr. Phil! Always right!!!
Last but Not Least: Every Day, Every Night, an Affirmation. I’m just going to quote the book. This is what I have to say every night to myself and I really like it, so I’m going to do it!
I have the power to transform today’s pain into tomorrow’s wisdom, and I love myself enough to choose to do exactly that. There is joy waiting for me. I deserve it. And I will be healthy enough to recognize and embrace it when it comes, and know that if this is what it took to find it, it was worth all this and more.
Well, that’s it for Day 3. I’m off to recover from Day 2. Update tomorrow!